On September 19, 2022, Westminster Abbey filled with 2,000 mourners for the funeral of Queen Elizabeth II. And a fair slice of the planet watched the broadcast live. Near the front of that congregation sat a woman in black, whom most viewers could not have named to save their lives. Television commentators paid specifically to identify everyone on screen hesitated when the camera found her.
The lens drifted on which suited her completely. Her name is Lady Sarah Chatau. She entered the world seventh in line to the British throne, the only daughter of Princess Margaret, niece of a reigning queen. Born inside Kensington Palace with a christening at Buckingham Palace, booked before she could focus her eyes.
By every rule of British celebrity, she belonged on magazine covers for six straight decades trailed by photographers dissected in the Sunday papers. Instead, she picked paint, two sons, one durable marriage, and a flat refusal to explain herself to anyone holding a microphone. That refusal turned her into a puzzle the press could not leave alone.
British newspapers, never comfortable with a royal who declines to perform, settled on a tidy story to account for her. They decided she escaped something. Her mother’s life supplied them with 40 years of headlines about heartbreak, scandal, cigarettes, and physical decline. So, the press wrapped a frame around all of it and pinned a name to the frame.
They called it the Margaret curse, and they cast Sarah as the one who slipped free. It forms a clean narrative. The doomed, glamorous mother, the wise daughter who fled the chaos to find peace far from the cameras. Clean narratives about royalty tend to fall apart the moment you check the dates against them. And this one falls apart faster than most because the daughter never actually fled anywhere.
The curse itself deserves a hard look before we travel any further because a curse is not a historical event. Nobody recorded one. No hex, no cursed heirloom, no uninvited witch at the christristening. The Margaret curse exists entirely as a phrase commentators repeat a convenient way to bundle one real woman’s misfortunes into something resembling fate.
Handing down a sentence, Margaret collected real misfortunes on her own. No supernatural packaging required. Her first love, group captain Peter Townsand, a divorced Equiry 16 years her senior, collided head on with the combined machinery of church and state. And in October 1955, she surrendered him under pressure that would have flattened almost anyone alive.
Two decades later, her marriage to a fashionable photographer rotted in full view of the tabloids. Paparazzi caught her on the island of Mystique in 1976 beside Rody Luwellyn, a man 17 years her junior. And those photographs circled the globe within days. Heavy smoking wrecked her lungs. Lung surgery followed in 1985, and a run of strokes from 1998 onward drained her until her death on February 9, 2002.
String those events together in a row and you produce something resembling a curse, provided you squint and badly want it. Pull them apart and you find a specific woman making specific choices inside a family that punished her for most of them. The curse framing performs a sneaky trick with that raw material. It converts Margaret into a cautionary tale and her daughter into the moral of the story.
And along the way, it quietly invents a distance between mother and daughter that the actual evidence rejects outright. The cursed tellers skip a detail that wrecks their whole structure. Royal biographers who tracked the relationship up close, Christopher Warrick among them, describe a mother and daughter who stayed unusually close to the very end.
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Sarah did not flee Margaret. Through the worst of Margaret’s physical collapse, the daughter functioned as a devoted caretaker, steady and present, while her mother’s body gave way beneath her over those final years. Whatever Sarah escaped across her life, her mother never belonged on the list. Rewind to the beginning which landed on May 1, 1964 inside Kensington Palace.
Lady Sarah Francis Elizabeth Armstrong Jones entered the world as the second child and only daughter of Princess Margaret and Anthony Armstrong Jones. By then, enobbled as the Earl of Snowden, seventh in line to the throne at birth, she occupied a spot close enough to count and far enough to breathe. The christristening followed on July 13, 1964, in the private chapel at Buckingham Palace, an occasion kept as quiet and discreet as Sarah’s adult life would later refuse to be.
Five godparents signed their names. Prudence, Lady Penn, Jane Stevens, Maragold Bridgeman, David Fain, the 15th Earl of West Morland, and a man called Anthony Barton. That last name carries a small, well-hidden detonation. Barton belonged to her father’s circle of close friends, which explains the Godfather invitation cleanly enough.
The invitation underells him. He would at some point become one of Princess Margaret’s lovers briefly, which explains why royal christening guest lists reward a careful reader. A baby received into the Church of England by a man who would later climb into her mother’s bed. The institution rarely advertised this kind of arrangement, and it almost never reached the official record.
Yet there it sat in plain view for anyone willing to follow the thread. Succession math runs one direction downward. Cousins marry, babies arrive, and everyone already born slips one rung lower without lifting a finger. By early 2025, after the birth of Princess Beatatric’s second daughter, Sarah drifted to 29th in line.
Sliding from 7th to 29th across 60 years tells you nothing about her and everything about a family that never stops reproducing. And in her case, the long slide downward reads less like a demotion than like an exit she walked toward on purpose. to grasp the home Sarah grew up inside. Back up four years before her birth to May 6th, 1960 when Princess Margaret married Anthony Armstrong Jones in Westminster Abbey.
The wedding pulled a television audience in the hundreds of millions. A fashionable photographer marrying a fashionable princess. And for a while, it resembled exactly the modern royal romance the public craved. The look did not last. The resemblance did not survive its first real contact with the marriage itself.
Both partners strayed repeatedly with a grim sort of symmetry. Snowden chased affairs with women including Anne Hills and Lucy Lindseay Hog while Margaret carried on with Robin Douglas home, nephew of a former prime minister. And with that same Anthony Barton from the christristening guest list, closing a small circle nobody wanted closed.
their household curdled into one of those marriages where two clever people compete to wound each other while the children stand downwind of the fallout. Buckingham Palace confirmed the separation on March 19, 1976 in the flat official language, the institution keeps in reserve for disasters.
The divorce concluded in May 1978. British newspapers reached instantly for their favorite line, announcing that this divorce ended a four century run. The first inside the senior royal family since Henry VIII in 1540. A statistic so satisfying that nobody felt the slightest urge to check it. So someone should check it.
The 1540 claim is media shortorthhand. And like most media shortorthhand, it tidies away whatever proves inconvenient. Queen Victoria’s granddaughter, Princess Victoria Mita, divorced in 1901, comfortably inside the span, the tabloids painted as spotless for over four centuries. The Henry VIII line only holds if you quietly restrict it to the immediate inner circle of working royals and trust that your audience owns no history books.
accurate with the qualifier, false without it, and the press almost always dropped the qualifier. What the divorce did to a 12-year-old daughter resists quotation because Sarah has never told us. During the loudest phase of the collapse across the mid to late 1970s, she lived away at Bedale’s boarding school, a circumstance that spared her some of the daily spectacle and none of the knowledge that her parents now headlined the country’s entertainment.
Biographers reach a shared verdict that this stretch drove her toward a lifelong appetite for privacy. The verdict reads as plausible. It also remains strictly speaking a theory because the one person able to confirm it has spent her entire adult life declining the chance. Sarah’s schooling pointed away from palaces from the very start.
Her parents enrolled her at Bedales, a progressive independent school in Hampshire with a reputation for art, individualism, and a flat refusal to grind students into stiff conformity. She left it with a single A level in art, which tells you precisely where her attention settled and where it intended to stay. From bedales, the road ran straight into the studio rather than the salon.
She enrolled at the Camberwell School of Art, then trained formally at the Royal Academy Schools between 1989 and 1992. The kind of serious institutional grounding that separates a working painter from a dabbler with a famous surname. Prizes arrived to confirm the verdict. The Windsor and Newton Prize came in 1988.
the Kresik landscape prize in 1990. Neither one handed over for the achievement of being a princess’s daughter. The painting never stopped. Decades later, she still works as a painter, producing landscapes and portraits with the steady output of someone who treats it as a craft rather than a pastime for a bored aristocrat between lunches.
One choice gives her away completely and it sits on the gallery wall beside the canvases where the label reads Sarah Armstrong Jones. Her maiden name, not Lady Sarah Chatau, not a royal style of any kind, nothing that might tempt a buyer to purchase a picture for its bloodline rather than its brush work. That single decision draws a hard line between the artist and the royal, and she has guarded that line across her entire career.
A painter wants the painting judged on the painting. A princess’s daughter understands exactly how a title bends a judgment before the viewer even reaches the frame. She stripped the title off, which looks like a small act, yet carries a blunt instruction to anyone standing in front of the work. Weigh it fairly for whatever it is, or walk away.
But reach the verdict without a royal name doing the deciding for you. The man Sarah married came attached to his own story, The Tabloids Mangled. Newspapers loved to claim that Lady Sarah and Daniel Chatau met on the set of Heat and Dust, the 1983 film, A Tidy Origin, placing the two of them side by side beneath the same studio lights.
The tidy version happens to be wrong. The messier version threads through two different productions shooting at the same time. Daniel Chatau did indeed act in Heat and Dust. Sarah, by contrast, worked as an uncredited wardrobe intern on David Lean’s A Passage to India, filmed across 1983 and 1984 with her own father working as the official photographer on the picture.
Two overlapping British productions filming in India during the same window. A shared world of crew and cast and mutual acquaintances. And somewhere inside that overlap, the two of them found each other. Not a single cinematic set with a Hollywood perfect meatcute, but a tangle of productions and introductions that the tabloids ironed flat because flat sells faster than tangled.
Daniel himself descended from theatrical stock rather than aristocracy. A former actor who turned toward art, he grew up the son of the theatrical agent Ros Chatau and the actor Tom Chatau, a childhood of stages and green rooms instead of estates and ancestral titles. He suited her, a claim the following 30 years would prove without one scandal interrupting the proof. They married on July 14, 1994.
The wedding announced its values through every single thing it pointedly refused to do. No red carpet, no carriage procession down the mall, no vast cathedral built for spectacle and crowd control. The ceremony unfolded at St. Steven Walbrook, a Christopher Ren church tucked into the city of London, modest by royal measure and chosen precisely for that modesty.
Place it beside the oporatic 1981 wedding of Charles and Diana or beside her own mother’s enormous 1960 Abbey production and the contrast writes its own caption. Across the marriage’s next three decades, journalists found nothing to print and historians found plenty to notice. Nothing broke. No separation, no affair, no anonymous source peddling a story to a Sunday paper, no crisis manufactured or genuine.
Inside a family where marital wreckage practically qualifies as a hereditary trait, a marriage with nothing whatsoever to report turned into a loud statement delivered in total silence. The Chatau raised two sons, both kept as clear of the spotlight as a royal adjacent childhood permits. Samuel Chatau arrived on July 28, 1996.
He read art history at the University of Edinburgh and built a working life as a sculptor and potter down in West Sussex, which means both of Sarah’s children leaned toward the studio far more than the palace. Arthur Chatau came along on February 5th, 1999 and his path bent towards somewhere unexpected for a great grandchild of a monarch.
As a boy, he held the post of Page of Honor to Queen Elizabeth II from 2009 to 2015, carrying robes at state occasions, the standard ceremonial chore handed to a well-connected royal child. Then he did the thing almost none of them ever attempt. He joined the Royal Marines, not as a figurehead colonel in chief pinning medals on other men, but as an actual recruit grinding through commando training, reckoned among the hardest military courses in the British armed forces.
Arthur began that training in the late summer of 2021. And by the time the family gathered for Queen Elizabeth II’s state funeral in September 2022, he stood among them as a serving officer in uniform. The green beret earned rather than gifted. Set Arthur’s choice beside the modern royal career template, the one loaded with patronages, photo calls, and ribbon cutings, and it looks almost defiant.
A great great grandson of a king crawled through freezing mud to survive a course that washes out most of the men who attempt it. His grandmother once surrendered the love of her life to royal disapproval. Her grandson chose the harder uniform. Two generations on, that gap between a surrendered romance and an earned green beret tells you more about how Arthur reads his own inheritance than any ribbon cutting ever could.
Margaret, the Queen’s younger sister, gave Sarah her place among the royal nieces, and that bloodline carried something rarer than rank. It carried trust. Of all the relatives orbiting Elizabeth II through her later years, Lady Sarah counted among the very few the queen leaned on by deliberate choice, the sort of family member ushered into private rooms rather than positioned for public ones.
At Balmoral, the royal family sheds a layer of its formality. The closeness between Queen and Nie showed there in small recurring habits. They rode together to Sunday services at Kathy Kirk in the Queen’s private car. A detail that sounds trivial until you weigh how few human beings ever shared that vehicle. Both of them loved Craigan Lodge on the estate, a modest house against the castle looming nearby, and they spent long stretches of unguarded time there, well away from staff and lenses.
The trust showed plainest at the moments that wounded the family deepest. When Prince Philip died and his funeral on April 17, 2021 shrank under pandemic restrictions to a tiny masked distanced gathering of 30, Lady Sarah held a seat near the front. Written onto a guest list trimmed to none but the closest.
18 months later, she attended the Queen’s own state funeral on September 19, 2022. Back at the scene where this whole story opened, the unrecognized woman in black who turned out to count among the most trusted figures in the entire House of Windsor. That trust quietly demolishes the curse narrative.
A woman supposedly sprinting away from the doomed Margaret branch does not wind up riding in the sovereign’s private car to church on a Sunday morning. The press built Sarah as the royal who ran. The queen treated her as the relative to keep nearest, and the queen knew her own family far better than the tabloids ever managed.
The press hunting for a label landed on a good one, the anti-royal royal. It captures her flat refusal to give interviews, her absence from the working rotor of hospital visits and ribbon cutings, her general allergy to the performance of monarchy as a paid job. As a nickname, it lands as a portrait of her actual position inside the institution. It quietly deceives.
Sarah never left the royal establishment at all. She passes on the public duties. True. Yet she holds the office of president of the Royal Ballet, a role she inherited directly from her mother who occupied it before her. That is not the resume of somebody standing outside the institution looking in. That is somebody planted firmly inside it, working on her own terms, accepting the pieces that interest her and dodging the pieces that arrive with cameras attached.
Her capacity to live this way rests on money. A subject the curse narrative tends to skip because money spoils the romance. Declining the public duties means declining the public stipend, the sovereign grant funding that bankrolls working royals. And a person can only afford that trade with private wealth standing behind her. Sarah inherited a fortune from Margaret after her mother’s death in 2002, a sum later padded by the contentious 2006 auction of Margaret’s estate.
a sale staged partly to settle inheritance tax that sent her mother’s jewels and belongings under the auctioneer’s hammer in full public view. Privacy, put plainly, carries a price tag, and Sarah commanded the means to pay it. Set her against her older brother, and the contrast sharpens to a fine point. David Armstrong Jones, the second Earl of Snowden, runs a commercial furniture business, and so lives nearer the public eye by the nature of the work.
And his marriage drew exactly the scrutiny his sister spent a lifetime dodging when his divorce from his wife Serena reached the press on February 17, 2020. Same parents, same childhood, inside the same detonating marriage. Two opposite responses to it. One sibling built a public-facing career and swallowed the public-f facing consequences.
The other dissolved into paint and family and handed the newspapers absolutely nothing to print year after year. So did Lady Sarah Chatau escape the Margaret curse? An honest answer demands taking the question apart first because the question smuggles in two assumptions and both of them buckle the moment you lean on them.
The first assumption insists that a real curse existed in the first place. It did not. Margaret lived a brutally hard life packed with real grief. A love surrendered to royal pressure. A marriage that decayed in public. A body broken by decades of cigarettes. Yet a hard life carries no supernatural sentence threaded through a bloodline.
Calling it a curse converts a real woman into a ghost story and lets everybody skip past the actual causes which stayed stubbornly human and specific and mostly landed on Margaret from an institution that allowed her painfully little room to breathe. The second assumption insists Sarah escaped by breaking clear of her mother. That one collapses against the plain facts because Sarah did not run from Margaret through the strokes, the surgeries, the long decline that closed over her mother after 1998.
The daughter stayed and nursed and remained close to the final breath. And the biographers who studied the pair describe a bond among the warmest anywhere in the modern royal family. Whatever Sarah built for herself, she built it standing next to her mother, never in flight from her. What Sarah did run subtler than escape and harder to pull off.
She watched what publicity did to Margaret over the years and chose point by point against repeating it. She kept the parts of royal life she valued. the family closeness, the ballet presidency, the quiet trust of a queen, and refused the parts that ground her mother down, the relentless interviews and the surrender of a private self to public appetite. No curse cracked.
A woman simply studied the wreckage scattered across her childhood and decided deliberately and early to live a wholly different way inside the very same family. The outcome forms a kind of victory the tabloids can never quite forgive because it generates no copy at all. Sarah Chatau turned 6T2 in 2026. She still paints under a name that buries her rank.
Still shares a roof with the same man she met in India four decades back. Still sits 29th in a line she shows not the faintest interest in climbing. The woman the cameras could not name at her aunt’s funeral claimed precisely the life she engineered for herself. Not an escape from a curse that never existed, but a quiet refusal sustained across 60 years to ever hand the press the tragedy they kept waiting to print.
